it seems I am cooked, lust found this regarding setting up domain email if your host does not offer this -

"all you need to do is update your domain’s MX records to route your domain emails to your new email service provider."

Xara hosting does not have anything on their control panel to update domain's MX, meaning that I have to do it through non existing Magix tech support. It is such a shame to have so good graphic / web application and such a miserable support when it comes to web hosting.